You grieve as someone who has hope, not as someone who has to pretend. Tears are not a lack of faith. God is nearest to the brokenhearted, and He carries you through the loss, not around it.
The Grace Answer
Grief has a way of making people feel like they are failing at faith, as if a strong enough believer would simply hurt less. That is not the picture Scripture paints at all. When Jesus stood at the grave of His friend Lazarus, knowing full well He was about to raise him minutes later, He still wept. God in the flesh cried at a funeral He was about to undo. Your tears are in good company.
Paul does not tell believers to skip grief or rush it. He tells them the shape of it. We do not sorrow as those who have no hope. Notice carefully, we still sorrow. Hope does not cancel the ache or hurry you past it. It just refuses to let the ache have the final word. You are allowed to fall apart and belong to the God of resurrection at the very same time. Those two things are not in conflict.
He does not rush you
The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and He saves such as have a contrite spirit. Not near once you have recovered and pulled yourself together. Near in the breaking, in the middle of the worst of it. Grief is not a problem He is impatient to fix so you will stop being sad around Him. It is love with nowhere left to go, and He sits down in it with you. There is no timetable you are secretly behind on.
Grieving well does not mean grieving alone. Let people carry you, sit with you, bring the meals and say the awkward true things. This is what the body of Christ is for. And underneath it all runs a horizon: a day is coming when He will wipe away every tear, when there will be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. That promise does not minimize today’s loss. It anchors you inside it.
So let yourself mourn. Let God be close without demanding that you feel better yet. Grief walked with hope is not weak faith. It is faith doing exactly what it was made to do, holding on to Him in the dark until the morning comes.