The first line repeats, almost word for word, what chapter 9 said about Wisdom herself.
Quick answer
Two builders and one house. The verse is about whether a person's daily choices are adding to their household or quietly dismantling it.
Read both lines
The Hebrew here is nearly the same sentence as 9:1, where Wisdom built her house and hewed her seven pillars, and catching that echo changes the verse. The wise woman of 14:1 is doing what the book's own embodiment of wisdom does. What makes the second line sting is the detail that she pulls it down with her hands, which is to say by her own ordinary daily activity rather than by a catastrophe. Neither builder in this verse is doing anything dramatic. Both are doing what they do all day, and the house is the sum of it.
What it does not mean
This is not a verse for grading anyone's wife or mother, and its subject is not domestic performance. The book applies the same observation to men without hesitation, saying at 11:29 that a man who troubles his own house inherits wind. A household is built or dismantled by whoever lives in it, and this verse happens to be addressed to one member of it.
Related: Proverbs 9:1 · Proverbs 11:29 · Proverbs 24:3–4 · Proverbs 31:10–31
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Go Deeper
If this verse has been used to put weight on you that it was never carrying, ask about it directly.